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Rewards of improving October 31, 2007

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Again from the book from John C. Maxwell, Be A People Person, John discusses about one of the important characteristics of a winning team, that is “keep improving”. What will be required to keep improving? We need to change, we need to take risk, we need to give up past success and failures to keep on improving and winning.

And something that interests me, is what John mentioned about the rewards of improving.

The highest reward for man’s improvement is not what he gets for it; it’s what he becomes as a result of it. Ask yourself why you are trying to improve. Is it to receive something for it? If so, that’s the wrong motive. Try to improve because it makes you a better person.

John C. Maxwell


And the credit belongs to … October 15, 2007

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Me and myself? or others? Often we blame mistakes on others and take credit to ourselves. Here is a quote that Terry Paulson put in his article “Beating the Blame Game“.

I’m just a plowhand from Arkansas, but I have learned how to hold a team together. How to lift some men up, how to calm down the others, until finally they’ve got one heartbeat together, a team. There’s just three things I’d ever say: If anything goes bad, I did it. If anything goes semi-good, then we did it. If anything goes real good, then you did it. That’s all it takes to get people to win football games for you.

Bear Bryant (Football Coach)

John Maxwell in his book Be A People Person also quoted the above statements on becoming a person that people trust. It takes more than skills to become a good leader, it also takes character and attitude.

So… will you take the credit and pass the blame? or take the blame and pass the credit?
The choice is yours!

Don’t take yourself too seriously October 11, 2007

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Back to the book I’m reading right now, Be A People Person by John Maxwell, there is one of the ten tips he mentioned on handling criticism, which is

Don’t take yourself too seriously. If you can develop ability to laugh at yourself, you will be much more relaxed when given or giving criticism… Blessed is he who can enjoy his blunders.

John C. Maxwell

Often we criticize ourselves too much for the mistakes we made. Now what you can do is laugh at your weakness, as what John Maxwell said, enjoy your blunders. Enjoying doesn’t mean that we don’t change or fix our mistakes, that means we accept ourselves on not being perfect while we are in the progress of changing to become better and better. Another important point for us is that…

We are approved by God, we don’t have to win the approval of others and look good in their eyes. We are not perfect people. Too many of us take ourselves too seriously and God not seriously enough.

John C. Maxwell

Seek wisdom but not to lean on it October 9, 2007

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Inspired by my devotional* today, taken from Proverbs chapter 2 to 3. Inspired by the point stated by John C. Maxwell on the passage, which is entitled The Irony of Spiritual Leadership:

As a spiritual leader, …

We are to get wisdom and understanding (2:1-5**), yet we are not to lean on it apart from the Lord (3:5,6***).

John Maxwell

It’s an irony isn’t it, if you see a bookstore, so many books and audios talk about wisdom, mindset, inspiring success stories, etc. It’s just similar like what Proverbs 1: 20-22 **** mentioned, wisdom calls aloud outside, raises her voice in open squares, and so on.

Sometimes I questioned, is it the right one, so many self-help books, and inspiring success stories being published and advertised, but will it contradict my Christian faith?

From the devotional today, I’m taking a conclusion that we are as a spiritual leaders or called-to-be leaders, we are asked to seek wisdom, from God Himself, from bible and from various experts and successful people that has learned the wisdom and knowledge throughout his life. Each of them may not perfect, but they have some value that God wants us to learn from.

Yet, we are asked to make use of the wisdom, making use of them without contradicting our faith, and the more important thing is that not to rely to our wisdom, the knowledge that we have been gathered around the years. Our trust still comes from God and God only, not human understanding nor wisdom.

*My devotional is taken from NKJV bible, specifically the Maxwell Leadership Bible, further info can be checked here.

** 1 My son, if you receive my words,
And treasure my commands within you,
2 So that you incline your ear to wisdom,
And apply your heart to understanding;
3 Yes, if you cry out for discernment,
And lift up your voice for understanding,

4 If you seek her as silver,
And search for her as for hidden treasures;
5 Then you will understand the fear of the LORD,
And find the knowledge of God.

King Solomon (Proverbs 2:1-5 NKJV)

*** 5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart,
And lean not on your own understanding;

6 In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He shall direct[a] your paths.

King Solomon (Proverbs 3:5-6 NKJV)

**** 20 Wisdom calls aloud outside;
She raises her voice in the open squares.

21 She cries out in the chief concourses,[b]
At the openings of the gates in the city
She speaks her words:
22 “ How long, you simple ones, will you love simplicity?
For scorners delight in their scorning,
And fools hate knowledge.

King Solomon (Proverbs 1:20-22 NKJV)

Art of Selling October 6, 2007

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We are all selling, either selling our products if we are businessmen, salesmen and women, selling our time to our bosses if we are employee or even selling “ourselves” to potential life partner.

Rule #1 to understand what makes people tick: People Mostly Care About Themselves
It’s an important note to be applied in our relationships if we want to be successful in selling.

I read about an interesting quote in John Maxwell’s book “Be A People Person” about motivating people for their benefit:

“You have to close through your eyes”.

Tom Hopkins (How to Master the Art of Selling)


Inside that book, Tom Hopkins gives an example of successful blind salesman who attributed his success in selling his properties on his blindness. The fact that he couldn’t see the properties he sold, requested him to sell through the eyes of his prospect.

You must see the benefits and features and limitations of your product or service from your potential buyer’s viewpoint. You must weigh them on his scale of values, not your own.

Tom Hopkins (How to Master the Art of Selling)

Be A People Person

To get the book, here is the link from amazon.com.

Generous Cleaner October 1, 2007

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Generous cleaner! She is the evening cleaner in my office. A widow with 2 sons, both are secondary students. To make the ends meet, she has to take 2 jobs a day, one in the morning and another in the evening, in my office. She has even worked for almost 24 hours a day, but couldn’t stand it and fell sick.

Yet she’s so generous, though she just knew me, she gave me many snacks to eat, bread, curry puff, etc. And last week, she came to our office with 2 big bowls of spicy mee siam. This time, not only for me, but for about two third of our office staffs of about 20 people.

She even promised us to bring us her special fried chicken and many more foods for all of us.

What a generous cleaner, in spite of her difficulties, she has been very-very generous. Even me, an executive engineer need to learn a lot about generosity from her.

A quote on generosity from John Maxwell:

Sometimes we hold on to our possesions because we fear we might run out-life seems scarce. But when we believe that giving is the way to live, we will produce more in the future-life seems abundant.

John C. Maxwell